Bila kita sebut tentang involve more, kita sebut tentang setiap perkara kita buat, kita pastikan anak ada.
House chores, cooking, reading, gardening, washing dishes, self-care routine, doing laundry and etc...
Lepas I baca satu buku parenting ni, I have decided to involve Adellia more into my daily routine. Apa saja I buat, I nak ajak Adellia.
After reading this book, I realized there are many things I've actually involved Adellia in without even realizing it. Antaranya, sikat rambut sendiri, brush teeth, pakai seluar sendiri, pakai spec mata sendiri, tolak trolley sendiri, wash hand, dan banyak lagi. I was feeling so happy that I involve my daughter dalam sedar tak sedar tu.
Now, setiap petang I akan make sure Adellia involve with nature more. I felt a bit sad that, after returning to Malaysia, I became lazy to take Adellia outside. I rasa... bersalah juga lah.
Padahal when she was a baby pun, kita bawak je Adellia keluar jalan-jalan. Even at Australia pun, every day we let her go outside. Orang sekarang call it healing (healing ke tu..). But now, with our new routine, I haven't continued it.
I think after few trials of involving her more, I can see few improvement.
What improvements have I noticed in Adellia?
1. Curious and excited
Her words would be like,
"Apa tu?"
"Mama, lizard sleep kan?"
"Mama, apa ni?" *sambil tunjuk dry leaf dekat floor*
2. Wanting to take part in every task
Macam ada satu masa tu, dia nak donut. So bila I menguli donut, I usually memang akan bagi dia uli sekali. Just bagi a small piece of dough and let her do her own magic.
Dekat sini best sebab I boleh nampak dia focus buat sesuatu tu. At the same time, she will observe my way. Cara I roll the wood untuk leperkan dough tu, cara I tekap bentuk untuk buat donut, cara I make sure donut tu bulat cantik..
When she watches us make donuts, she learns to observe and eventually tries making them herself.
3. Language and cognitive development
I ada perasan vocab Adellia improving a lot. She talks more and wanting to express what she feels.
Dekat rumah, I mix English and Malay a lot. So, she used both languages in her daily routine. Dekat school pulak, the teachers used English. Sometimes, at home, she will speak in english. Cuma bunyi pelat pelat itu normal untuk anak 2 tahun.
4. Developing life skills
Bila kita involve our child more, I perasan kita akan develop their life skills sekali. For example, cooking lunches, cleaning up, daily bath routine for future responsibilities.
These are all good skills to teach our children. They will learn to be independent in handling small tasks.
Contoh yang I selalu buat dekat Adellia, is washing hands. Dekat rumah, I akan letak kerusi dekat sink. And whenever she wants to wash her hands, she can just climb the chair and wash hands. Then, dia akan turun sendiri. Awal-awal dulu larat la lagi nak dukung dia. Sekarang, tidak lagi.
Another example, I let her climb the stairs on her own. At first, I was a bit worried. Our minds conjure up various scenes. However, I let her be and observe. Eventually, she starts climbing the stairs by herself. It's a good skill.
5. Motor skills
Adellia suka stickers, jadi I beli stickers banyak-banyak and biar dia main dengan stickers sampai puas. Petang pulak, I akan ajak dia watering the plants.
This everyday task will contribute to the development of fine and gross motor skills. Dia suka je, sebab boleh main air. Tapi tak kisah la, biar saja dia comot dan basah. Sebab ada masanya dia akan geli bila kasut/selipar dia basah. Dekat sini pentingnya grounding anak. I dah lama tak buat grounding, sampai dia jadi geli dengan selipar basah.
I selalu grounding dia dengan tumbuhan je (let her touch the plants, the woods, the rocks) tapi I jarang sangat biar dia berkaki ayam. I might need to take notes and check this off as one of my goals...
In that book, the author said, bila kita ajar anak, we have to use SHOW method.
S low
H ands
O mit
W ords
Avoid talking and show more. Rupanya bila kita ajar toddler, we don't use words. We teach them by observation. Lepas I dah tahu method ni, I akan tunjuk je without any words to Adellia. Toddlers learn more through observation. But, make sure we use slow hands movement. Moving your hands too quickly can make a toddler give up too soon.
Ini antara ilmu yang I dapat. You guys can learn and know more through this book. I really recommend parents to get this book. Kita bukan belajar tentang anak saja, tapi diri sendiri as a parent jugak. It's a good book.
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